Recently I heard from Kim. Kim is my cousin and over the years, we had become inseparable. For the sake of her identity, I have named her Kim. I chose the name “Kim” because I woke up yesterday morning fantasizing about Kim Kardashian.
My cousin; Kim was in a relationship with a guy that I would say wasn’t ready for a relationship. If you have ever been in a similar situation, you should know that; it’s always the same story. At some point, you begin to feel you are giving more than the other person is reciprocating. But you cannot stop, because you have this feeling that if you try harder, that person may eventually get to see you in the same light.
When she told me what she was going through, I laughed. I know it is evil to laugh at the misery of others, but when the person suffering is your cousin, the rules kind of change. This laughter became short-lived when she told me that the reason, she came to me was because she knew I had once been in her shoes. And although I wouldn’t believe it, she was the reason my relationship failed.
It is true I was once in love with a girl named Khloe. I mean, Khloe is not her real name. But if you need to know why I chose the name Khloe, you could google “sexy Khloe Kardashian pics”.
Khloe was the best friend of my cousin Kim. We were in a relationship and we thought it wise to keep it from Kim which later turned out to be a waste of time because even dead animals in the jungle knew. After a while, I noticed the “emotionally unavailable” signs in Khloe. And like the first instinct of everyone who has ever been in this situation; I tried harder. But the more I tried, the more — the stuff that happens when someone tries harder in relationships, happened — she got away.
It was during my recent conversation with Kim, I learnt that Khloe was not over her Ex and that she kind of cheated on almost every guy she has dated since her Ex, with her Ex. While I was with Khloe, there was another girl who was interested in a relationship with me. For the sake of this article, I have named her Kendall. Kendall was gorgeous, so naturally, there were many guys that wanted her. I want to tell you that Kendall realized that I was a waste of time and moved on with her life. But by now, you should know that someone who is attracted to emotionally unavailable people is never ready to fall in love with someone who wants them. I still got a call from her yesterday.
When I am bored, I like to imagine that somewhere, there are girls attracted to the guys attracted to the girl that was chasing me. Those girls do not realize how far down they are on the “Unavailable love chain”.
I love you.
Oh, lest I forget, my cousin had nothing to do with my relationship with Khloe. What she said about causing one of my failed relationships is just one of those things she does when I piss her off. The jobless piece of shit.
Unlike the advice I got from my friends when I was undergoing my episodes with Khloe, I knew better than to tell my cousin; she was beautiful, smart and deserving of someone better. Over the years I have realized that when you tell people stuff like this, the next thing they tell you is; you don’t understand. They always come up with some excuse that sounds good to the ear. And honestly, I would rather watch paint dry or watch a plant grow than listen to my cousin come up with an excuse.
Throughout the conversation, I refrained from advising her. Because most times when you advise someone, they naturally feel the need to do the opposite. The same way I always feel the need to urinate under a “please, do not urinate here sign”. From my personal experience, I have concluded that the only way out of this misery is when she gets to her breaking point after so many nights of crying into a towel and realizes she deserves better. I could tell her she deserves better every day, but it differs significantly to her realizing this on her own. And what is so beautiful about her realizing that she deserves better is that when she luckily gets to this point, she will also come to understand that she can fall in love with someone else, absolutely anyone — if she just tries.
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